he's just not that into you

I went to a 10:20 showing of "he's just not that into you” today. I was very entertained. I give it four stars. My system of movie review is based on five stars rather than the traditional four star system “He’s just not that into you" receives four stares because it’s just not Oscar worthy. It is one of the most realistic romantic comedies I have ever seen though. I love movies where you actually pick up lessons that you can implement in your own life. I know some might or have regarded this movie as a chick flick but No it’s a "life flick" (throughout these blogs I'll coin phrases ha). Both men and women can learn a pointer or two. I mean love isn't easy because if it was everyone one would be in it, stay in it, and not afraid to get it in. I actually really anticipated this movie. I wouldn't change a thing about it the movie. Men can learn to actually not be players and in some cases not put yourself in a relationship that's not heading anywhere Relationships are meant to be balanced. Never put more into than you will get out. The character of Connor Barry is the perfect example of a guy being led on by Anna played by Scarlett Johansson .Connor wants to turn a “friends with benefits” situation, into a relationship. Not always a good idea. The movie gives examples i.e. she's not that into you. Although girls usually give mixed signals rather than negative or no signals typically the method used by guys. She would call him, come over to his house, kiss him and let him give her messages. Anna blows off a call from Connor to flirt with another guy. A guy she has a quick fling with during the movie while remaining to play Connor hot and cold because she won’t have sex with him .I think the last example speaks volumes about female signals. If a girl really likes you, she will do things for you. If she's just letting you do things for her, it is probably a sign she's just wasting time with you until something better comes along. The reason women, even gorgeous women do things in the early phrases of a romance for the guy is to prove they are worthy of the guy. Traditionally women have lower self esteem than men in large part due to sexism. Don’t quote me but I saw a statistic stating only 14 % of women do not think highly of themselves. You can see that in mostly all the female characters to some degree. Low self esteem is incredibly dominant in the character of gigi played by Ginifer Goodwin. Gigi is a cutie yet she will do anything to please guy even guys they treat her poorly. She’s very overzealous; she even attempts to stalk Connor in one part of the movie (they went on one mediocre date). After her stalking attempt fails she runs into his best friend Alex, he gives her advice after she admits her reasons for coming into the nightclub he manages. He is very blunt to the point of insensitivity. Alex has said the same lines to girls that Gigi hears from guys. I have been in the same position as Alex. Although those who ask for advice are not always ready to accept it. I can lead you the well but I can’t force you to drink. You ask me my honest opinion I’ll give it to you, do with it what you want. I think what I respect most about the movie is the ending. It is not the typical happy ending. Some characters end up happy while others ended up lonely for the time being but have the potential to find happiness later on in life.